There are many reasons why someone might skip their quinceañera. Like my sister, some simply choose a different path that feels more true to them. Others might not be able to afford it. Quinces can cost anywhere from $5,000 to $20,0000 — a pricey amount for a one-day celebration. Some aren’t allowed to due to their gender presentation or sexual orientation. And there are still others who disagree with what it stands for, dismissing it as an antiquated practice. To learn more about why quinceañeras aren’t in the cards for everyone, we spoke with four Latinas who explain why they didn’t have a party and what they did instead.